How to Feed a Picky Eater

Feeding a picky eater can be a challenging task for any parent or caregiver. As frustrating as it might be, it’s essential to remember that picky eating is a relatively common phase that many children go through. In fact, about 35 percent of parents say they have a child that’s a picky eater. 58 percent agree that it’s hard to get their child to eat a balanced diet. 

Understanding the reasons behind picky eating and employing effective strategies to address it can make mealtimes a more pleasant and nourishing experience for both the child and the entire family. In this blog, we will delve into the world of picky eaters, exploring the causes, potential consequences, and most importantly, practical tips on how to tackle this phase successfully.

Understanding Picky Eating

Picky eating refers to a child’s selective approach to food, where they demonstrate a strong preference for a limited range of items, often rejecting new or unfamiliar foods. While the underlying reasons for picky eating can vary from child to child, there are some common factors that contribute to this behavior:

Sensory Sensitivities

Children may have heightened sensory perceptions, making certain textures, colors, or smells off-putting. This can influence their willingness to try new foods.

Fear of New Foods

Picky eaters may fear the unknown and be hesitant to try new foods due to a lack of familiarity or previous negative experiences.

Control and Independence

Mealtimes might be one of the few areas where children feel they have some control. Picky eating could be an attempt to assert their independence.

Negative Attention

Picky eating might lead to more attention from parents or caregivers, inadvertently reinforcing the behavior.

Routine and Familiarity

Children often find comfort in routine and familiarity, leading them to stick with the same foods they are used to.

Consequences of Picky Eating

Picky eating can raise concerns among parents and caregivers, particularly about their child’s nutrition and overall health. Some potential consequences of persistent picky eating include:

Nutritional Deficiencies

If a child’s diet primarily consists of a few select items, they might miss out on essential nutrients, leading to deficiencies that can affect growth and development.

Limited Food Preferences in Adulthood

Unaddressed picky eating can extend into adulthood, making it challenging for individuals to broaden their food choices and maintain a balanced diet.

Mealtime Stress

Constant battles at mealtimes can create stress and tension for both the child and the parents, affecting the overall family dynamic.

Disrupted Social Interactions

Picky eating might lead to social discomfort during gatherings or events where the child is exposed to new foods.

Tips to Tackle Picky Eating

While dealing with a picky eater can be a daunting task, there are several strategies that parents and caregivers can employ to encourage a more adventurous and nutritious approach to food:

Lead by Example

Children are more likely to try new foods if they see their parents and older siblings enjoying a variety of items. Make an effort to eat diverse meals as a family and showcase your enthusiasm for different foods.

Create a Positive Eating Environment

Ensure that mealtimes are pleasant and stress-free. Avoid pressuring the child to eat or making negative comments about their food choices. Encourage conversation and make mealtimes enjoyable.

Involve the Child in Meal Planning and Preparation

Take the child grocery shopping and involve them in meal planning and preparation. Letting them pick out fruits, vegetables, or other ingredients can make them more invested in trying the final dish.

Offer a Variety of Foods

Introduce new foods gradually, alongside familiar ones. Be patient and keep presenting new items, even if they are initially rejected. Research has shown that it might take multiple exposures before a child becomes comfortable with a new food.

Be Creative with Presentation

Sometimes, picky eaters reject foods based on appearance. Get creative with the presentation by cutting fruits and vegetables into fun shapes or arranging them into colorful patterns.

Respect Food Preferences

While encouraging new foods, it’s essential to respect a child’s food preferences. Avoid making separate meals for the child, as this might reinforce picky eating behavior.

Implement the “One Bite” Rule

Encourage your child to take at least one bite of a new food before deciding if they like it or not. This rule allows them to explore different tastes without feeling overwhelmed.

Limit Snacking

If a child snacks excessively throughout the day, they might not feel hungry during mealtimes, leading to less interest in trying new foods. Offer balanced snacks at appropriate times, but avoid grazing throughout the day.

Be Patient and Persistent

Addressing picky eating is a gradual process that requires patience and persistence. Celebrate small victories and avoid becoming disheartened if progress seems slow.

Seek Professional Help if Necessary

In most cases, picky eating is a temporary phase that children eventually outgrow. However, if picky eating becomes extreme, leading to severe nutritional deficiencies or adversely affecting the child’s overall well-being, it might be necessary to seek professional help. 

Tackle Picky Eating with Help from Purpose Coaching

If you feel like you’re having trouble tackling picky eating, it might be time to talk to a third party. At Purpose Coaching, I can help you work through these issues and come up with a plan to help you feel more confident at mealtimes. If you’d like to learn more about dad coaching with me, check out this page on my site. You can also reach me directly here.